Young people are some of the major users of the internet with 95% of teenagers having access to the World Wide Web. Our article is a practical guide to help children and young people use and enjoy social media platforms in a safe and positive manner - with tips on how to avoid cyberbullying.
Generally your child’s experiences online are fun and useful. Furthermore, the internet a great way to stay in touch, however, it's important for them to be aware of their digital footprint and take the necessary precautions.
It can be difficult for children and young people to differentiate between the digital and real world. The result is often them spending more and more time online - leaving them vulnerable to cyberbullying.
Having a tool kit for tackling cyberbullying is a great start.
Start the conversation and talk to your child about how nasty messages, posts and photos can be distributed quickly to a lot of people, some of whom they may not even know, and can be extremely difficult to delete.
Many young people have been involved in cyberbullying either as a target, as a bully, standing by quietly doing nothing, or as someone who participates on the sidelines by liking and sharing posts. It's important to have a discussion with your child about their behaviour online.
Bullying occurs when there is an imbalance of power, where someone purposely and repeatedly says or does hurtful things to someone else. It can happen individually or in a group of people.
Cyberbullying involves the use of technologies such as the internet, social networking sites, websites, email, text and instant messaging and gaming platforms to repeatedly intimidate or harass others.
It’s often called trolling, hating and gossip, however the intention is to embarrass, humiliate, torment, threaten or harass.
It can be sustained and repeated over a period of time and can occur relentlessly and non-stop, and unlike traditional bullying, it can take place in your own home. The damage cyberbullying can cause is extensive - affecting your child’s feelings, self-esteem, reputation and mental health.
If your child is being cyberbullied:
Positive things you can do today to help prevent cyberbullying in your family:
Use privacy settings, lock down your child’s content and make sure it as private as possible on the sites they use. Check their privacy settings regularly because they can change.
Remember to always to advise them to “think before you post” anything online.
Talk about not feeling pressured to share photos, selfies or personal information about themselves.
Before sending an image of themselves STOP AND THINK. Ask them - is it something they want everyone to see? Once the image is posted online or sent to someone they know - your child will have no control over what happens to that image ever again.
Never share personal identifying details about themselves such as their address, date of birth, phone number and school.
Do not share passwords with friends and make sure they are not obvious.
Make it part of your child’s routine to log out of online accounts when they are not using them. Do not give anyone the opportunity to pretend to be your child via one of their accounts. Be careful of saving passwords on web browsers.
Google your child’s name including in an image search and monitor their digital footprint regularly. If any personal information is revealed go to the relevant safety centre and get the content removed.
Talk about not joining in if they see someone is being cyberbullied. By sharing messages they’ve received, 'liking' a post or passing it instantly makes them part of the problem – your child is spreading the humiliation.
Doing nothing can be just as bad – help and support the person being cyberbullied.
Follow the direct links and use the Safety Centres below. They are there to help:
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